March 2013 - Rev. Dr. Charlene M. Proctor

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Lily Farewell

Dear Everyone,

Because our dear dogs are such regular fixtures in our lives, and mean the world to us, I thought you should know that this morning our dear Lily Bernadette Lemontine has crossed over and is no longer with us. I am so sad today.

Lilly A somewhat misshaped lemon and white Basset Hound, Lily wasn’t ill, just getting old. Last night, parked in her usual spot under the dinner counter, she received wonderful New York steak tidbits and pasta that conveniently fell off of our plates. She lived an amazing life, considering when we found her at a pet store nearly 13 years ago, she had Parvo but she triumphantly conquered that disease along with the hearts of everyone who has ever been to our home. I don’t think any dog had more nicknames nor enjoyed digging for critters in the mud outside of the Dogtrot (a northern Michigan lodge with miles of woods) as much as Little Miss Muffin Buttcakes.

For years, she marched in the Birmingham Bassett Hound Parade in a pink ruffled southern bonnet that she never complained about, while I dressed up like a goofy tourist in Basset Hound attire, always wondering if she’d be too lazy to finish walking the three-block parade route. No worries, she would be rescued by the Pooped Pup Truck, a golf cart driven by a morning volunteer whose job was to pick up tired Bassets from the roadside. And her favorite place to be other than the dinner bowl was on the boat, taking a nap under the summer sun.

Sometime this morning, she simply walked outside the doggie door, took one last look at the sky and just laid down to rest. And on her own terms, and without any fuss, that was the end of her earth journey. My guess is that she went on to find her buddy Duncan somewhere over the Rainbow Bridge and the two of them are now leaping over logs and rabble rousing with the squirrels.

It always amazes me how much we grow to love our dogs (are they truly dogs? I think they are furry angels in disguise) and how big a presence they have in our lives because they give without asking. They listen to our silly stories, offering us love and comfort whenever we want, and are our biggest fans. This dog was my dear friend for so long, it is difficult to let go today, but like all things in life, this too shall pass and all will be well.

Blessings, Charlene

 

 

 

How to be at Ease

What facilitates a state of “being at ease?”

  1. Live from the inside out. Let’s learn to develop calmness and a feeling of inner expansion. Calmness invites focus, self awareness, energy, intelligence into our experience. Bliss is not going to knock on our front door and asked to be let in! Calmness is developed with diligence – we must learn to quiet the mind in meditation or contemplation.
  2. Practice inner awareness. We must get to know our own behavior. When we learn to live as an observer, we are aware of our own behaviors and how it affects others.
  3. Be fully present with people and circumstances. Quit texting when you are talking to someone and give them your full attention. Slow your mind down and focus on the task or situation at hand.
  4. Value honesty and seek to be authentic. Part of being at ease and living a balanced life is to be an authentic individual. You can never, ever give someone something you do not already own yourself, such as love. To try to do so is inauthentic. So, as you get to know yourself, learn to be honest with your feelings, recognize your unique perspective on life. As long as it’s not hurting anyone, celebrate you and your gifts to the world in your work, personal life, and activities.

Today’s Affirmation

Developing ease and positivity also comes from affirming the best in you. So let’s begin our day with an affirmation that recognizes our desire to get in touch with ourselves. We cannot lead a balanced life until we love and appreciate who we are. Let’s affirm:

“Today I change the way I internalize life. I inhale living spirit with every breath I take and focus my energy to help others on their soul journey. I love my entire self and trust life. I am comfortable knowing that I am loved for who I am because I am a unique expression of creation. I am in love with my true and authentic self.”

I hope you enjoyed these tips on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

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Every Blessing,

 

 

 

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential. Click Here to buy.

How can we Embrace the Positive and Negative Sides of Life

  1. Change your outlook on change. This is ‘big picture’ thinking. While major upheavals in life can be challenging, you still need to view adversity as change, not as loss and failure. Humans develop resiliency through change, both physiologically and emotionally. It is necessary for all life forms to evolve. You have to give up ‘certainty’ and trust the process of life more often. Know that Spirit supports you no matter what. Adversity is a deeply spiritual lesson because God is attempting to show you a piece of life you need to view for your own evolution and transformation.
  2. Remain fully present to your suffering. Being fully present during loss, grief, and all forms of adversity is important. Until you process your pain, you cannot move through it. People often stuff or manage their emotional pain which then translates into poor health, overeating, and more psychological suffering.  Feel your suffering, and experience it in order to move past it.
  3. Affirm your positive, present moment benefits no matter what. Accepting life’s contrasts, whether from financial loss, divorce, illness, or grief, means you accept life wholeheartedly. You must accept the bad as well as the good. As adults we tend to resent life. Keep moving forward, and ask for Divine assistance. You will be amazed at how help arrives so be open to receiving your good.  The universe is infinitely creative and will send help in ways you could not imagine.

Let’s draw strength together and remember each day is a new opportunity to make positive change in your world, no matter what.  Affirm:

“Change is good. I am comforted knowing starting over is an ongoing job. I am becoming more resilient with every circumstance. I never give up. Life is a cycle and there’s always more room for love.  I believe I am evolving every day.”

Suffering is a condition we can move through. Humans are designed to experience grief but not be permanently stuck in grief. Remember, adverse changes in life permit personal growth and permit us a greater capacity to love.

I hope you enjoyed these tips on embrace the light and dark sides of life. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

And, please stay in touch with me by subscribing to this blog using the form on the right-hand side of your screen. That way, I can send you more stories and insight from The Oneness Gospel.

 Every Blessing,

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential. Click Here to buy.

Change our Suffering to Joy

We manage our suffering rather than coming to terms with it and moving through it.  Instead we manage our suffering.

There will always be suffering. We suffer when we don’t fully live through the present moment, feel the pain of it (if there is pain) and embrace it.  The East is teaching us that we, in the West, are experts at suffering management.  We stuff our suffering, go to therapy, eat, drink, complain, get mad at our families, run away, watch TV, shop more, or look for love in the wrong places. We don’t face our suffering head on and allow it to fill us.  We don’t want to feel it and stay with that pain.  Even old emotional charges, which are the residue of old suffering, need to be faced head on until they pass.  Westerners think the way to deal with suffering is to contain it and manage it.  That is not the key to living in joy and the way to fully experiencing life.

In the West, our minds are running our lives. Rather than being a work-servant to our lives, our minds are obsessed with the past and the future. We chose to allow old conditioning, and ‘autopilot living’ dominate our experience, rather than fully immersing ourselves in the present.  Also, we carry too many emotional charges and traumas. These charges become stuck in our koshas, the energy layers which cause us physical distress. To fix all this, we identify with our old stories, as well as our physical bodies instead of our spiritual selves, and wind up as seekers seeking everything from happiness to more pleasure, instead of seeking ‘essence.’

Also, we don’t know our own divinity and don’t feel connected. All suffering originates in the belief in separation. Sin is our belief in separation from God, the Good, in consciousness. Our salvation is now—not something that occurs after death. It happens whenever we turn our thoughts from fear, anxiety, worry and doubt to thoughts of love, harmony, joy and peace. The ‘fall’ that religion has frightened us with simply takes place in consciousness whenever we fall into negative habits of thinking. Heaven and hell are states of consciousness, not geographical locations. We make our own heaven or hell here and now by our thoughts, words and deeds. It would be great if we could release all these fears.

I hope you enjoyed this short article on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

And, please stay in touch with me by subscribing to this blog using the form on the right-hand side of your screen. That way, I can send you more stories and insight from The Oneness Gospel.

Every Blessing,

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential. Click Here to buy.