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Are You Mentally Strong?

ballroomWhether you are an athlete, in the middle of a health crisis, or just having a bad day at work, there are times you’ll need to pull strength from your inner core. Finding that extra energy that gets you where you need to go is a skill you can develop through awareness.

Everyone needs plenty of fortitude to survive and thrive in today’s world. Although we constantly receive spiritual assistance, sometimes our rational mind blocks the belief that our needs will always be met by The Universe when going through difficult times. Prickly relationships or a lack of abundance are common situations that always help us develop determination and courage which is the foundation of mental strength.

People who are mentally strong share similar qualities. If you recognize these ideas, and give them bigger space to grow in your life, you will feel empowered and be able to celebrate almost any experience when the going gets tough.

Mentally strong people:

  1. Move forward and don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. When they hit a bump in the road, they acknowledge it, and chalk it up to receiving a life lesson. They look beyond the circumstance and don’t get stuck in unforgiveness or failure because they realize there is absolutely nothing that can be done to change the past. It’s over and any energy spent dwelling on it or in it is a wasted resource that can be put toward making positive change.
  1. Embrace challenges and focus on the process. Anything worth having usually requires tremendous effort. They understand that success in any corner of life requires a strong and consistent work ethic that adapts to shifting conditions.
  1. Stay happy because they don’t waste time and energy on controlling people. They see life filled with wonder and joy but also respect the interesting matrix of uncertainties. They understand relationships are complex and people cannot be controlled. Mentally strong people know they can never change another person, only experience them, because a person must desire to improve themselves.
  1. Do their best to project kindness, practice fairness, and are unafraid to speak up. A mentally strong person sees the big picture and rises above petty situations. When they see injustice, they speak to their truth, and have the character and integrity to support their opinion. Generosity is their strong suit.
  1. Are willing to take calculated risks. They believe achievement does not happen by accident and do their best to analyze the best course of action to get there. They have an intention to succeed and are willing to make the best and most informed choice possible in every situation, knowing that sometimes they may not win the day.
  1. Celebrate their own success with an attitude of gratitude and humility. They are worldly enough to see the benefit in other people’s success and don’t resent it, but use it as a means to motivate and elevate themselves to the next level, wherever that may be.
  1. Make being their own personal or organizational “best” the goal, not just being better than others. They create value by looking within and focusing on what they do well and develop those ideas and skills accordingly. Trying to be better than someone without any understanding of what they do well, does not allow for exceptional growth. Success is always a consequence of personal and spiritual growth, as well as timing and outside influences beyond their control. Mentally strong people focus on their talents and put the time in to just get better.

Create a Winning Mentality

Not long ago, before a very large competition, I was feeling very unempowered and using the wrong imagery to motivate myself. My dear friend, Dawn told me that we should never set our sights on being better than a specific person. We need to focus on a goal, harness the power of our desire, and use it to overcome our fears of failure. More importantly, she said, making yourself the best should be your goal, not comparing yourself to a specific individual. Be mentally strong first, and get your head in order.

After offering me this wisdom, she said learning or achieving goes in stages. That you can work on one tiny thing for months and months with no result, and then one day, you wake up and you can do it because it has become part of you. Often, you can’t force the rate of how much you can take in to better yourself in any field of expertise. What pushes you over the high jump bar is a consistent attitude, and the belief that information turns into knowledge which turns into skill by practicing mental strength. All that you are attempting to be is there inside you, just waiting to be born. Have confidence, she said, that it’s going to happen. I applied this advice in the next competition, and felt stronger, more peaceful, and was able to produce results.

Mental strong people love to win, and usually do, but they know that life is not about winning. It is not about squashing the competition or making more money than anyone else or feeling superior. It is about learning and doing more and achieving more, while knowing who you are. It is about enjoying what you do and inspiring others to pursue their dreams. Winning, or any form of success, is the blessing that happens when the stars and moons are properly aligned and when your heart is fully committed to a goal. Develop the qualities of mental strength and apply them to every corner of your life. I believe you will feel more joyful and be able to attract success!

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.



Gratitude 2013

GratitudeDear Friends:

This year was filled with wonderful changes. I experienced exciting and unusual work projects and refreshing new people in my personal life. There was an infusion of positive energy everywhere in the form of better relationships and prosperity.  I am so thankful!

It seems that when we ask The Divine for practical and productive transformation, we are unwilling to make space for new and better ideas. Often we cling to what is familiar and safe, even if we sense it is not for our highest good. Shedding old ideas and negative messages that clutter the mind is how we raise our vibration to attract better conditions.

Also, when we set an intention, we may wonder when we will receive our good. We may question the universe’s timing to provide the perfect situation for us. But when we relax, and know our prayers have been answered the instant we sincerely express our needs, we can be more patient and enjoy the process.

My friend Charles, who is a homeopathic physician and has been a dear friend for over 25 years, taught me to carefully make a list of all the things I wanted and another list of things I didn’t want, each time I wanted something in my life. After the lists are made, he said, see yourself having what you want and say, “I AM together reach.” ‘I AM,’ he said, was to acknowledge the God within and ‘together reach’ is to bring what you desire toward you. I learned to do this regularly and the longest I waited to receive the items on one of my lists was 3 weeks. That is amazing!

When you begin working with this type of energy, you’ll read your list weeks or months later and discover what you received was far better than what you imagined.  Get started by making space for change and setting a clear intention. Be patient. When the pieces are properly aligned to give you the best outcome, you will have brilliant surprises.

In the spirit of thankfulness, I’m giving away my Kindle version of The Oneness Gospel: Birthing theChrist Consciousness and Divine Human in You for freeThe Oneness Gospel will teach you how to experience joy in your life and awaken to your authentic self. You will love this book!  Click here and be sure to let us know how goodness has arrived in your life.

Many Blessings,


© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.


What Grace can do to enhance our lives

peaceGrace is the holy presence. It is an experience. Allow it to be a primary connection to your Source. This is the place you know you are taken care of, when life has meaning. A lack of trust means you do not know grace. It shifts your perception of life.

Love is the foundation of grace and the activity of the Divine. It is Divine Love helping you and healing you. It is like a mother who offers comfort and warmth, who folds you into her lap. There is no effort required on our behalf, and we should offer no resistance. It is free, on the house, available to everyone. It is an energy that is always there but we often don’t recognize it. When we change our perceptions on grace, and allow it to enter our experience, there is progress in the form of personal transformation and healing – a move forward in all areas.  There is a re-ordering taking place. There is peace. It is not a concept or an idea, but the holy presence. All you have to do is ask God for grace.  It is that simple.

When we fall from grace, it does not mean we are sinners. It means we have forgotten our connection with the Divine Presence! When you ‘come back into grace’ it doesn’t mean we have chosen the right religion nor done something amazing to impress God. It means we have remembered who we are as beings of light here on the plant. We have simply remembered our connection.

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.


The biggest diseases of Western culture?

HeavenIn the West, our minds are running our lives, rather than being a work-servant to our lives, in the form of an obsession with the past and the future. Old programming and conditioning, and living on autopilot also dominate our experience, rather than fully immersing ourselves in the present.  Also, we carry too many emotional charges and traumas that become stuck in our koshas, the energy layers which cause us to revisit old events physically. To fix all this, we get identified with our stories, as well as our physical bodies, and wind up as seekers seeking everything from happiness to more pleasure, instead of seeking “essence.”

Also, we don’t know our own divinity, and don’t feel connected. All suffering originates in the belief in separation. Sin is our separation from God, the Good, in consciousness. Our salvation is now—not something that occurs after death. It happens whenever we turn our thoughts from fear, anxiety, worry and doubt to thoughts of love, harmony, joy and peace. The “fall” that religion has frightened us with, simply takes place in consciousness whenever we fall into negative habits of thinking. Heaven and hell are states of consciousness, not geographical locations. We make our own heaven or hell here and now by our thoughts, words and deeds. It would be great if we could release all these fears.

Judging by the amount of people I see attending spiritual programs, I would say people are looking to create a level of awareness. Many have been seeking for so long, they are caught up in the seeking process. Enlightenment is not the end of the road.  It is simply waking up.  It is shifting from living from the mind and thinking from the heart. You learn to disengage from the mind – (we don’t stop thinking of course) but disengage from old emotions, habits, assumptions, traumas, conditioning, and living life through all these masks you have constructed in order to survive. That is the true transformation.


© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.