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Moments of Joy and empowerment

charlene proctorThis month’s Pro-Am Spotlight is the Reverend Doctor Charlene M. Proctor who tells us how to take the positive path, in the ever changing world of ballroom dancing.  In 2015, she was a U.S.D.C. National Rising Star Smooth Champion and an Ohio Star Ball Rising Star Smooth Champion. Her reflections on how to manifest success while finding joy in the ballroom will help you on your own personal dance journey.

Life Outside of Dance

I have a very close family.  My children Jason, Vaughn, and Shenghan Bai are all recently or nearly out of college, and my husband Tom Proctor is at the helm. Currently, he is an L-39 formation pilot and instructor, and flies many aircraft for the World Heritage Air Museum. My house in Michigan is Grand Central Station.  It is constantly filled with family, friends, dance partners, coaches, employees from all of our companies, (both Tom and I moved our businesses home several years ago), along with our Brittany Spaniel, Proctor’s Bird Buster aka, Goo Goo Baby.

charlene proctorMy father Rudy “Ludomill” Chalko, (Milovník Ľudí) was Ukrainian. None of my relatives from my dad’s side spoke English, they spoke Slovak, and my mother was one of seven Silesian children.  The family base was in Chicago. Food was a symbol of prosperity and love, and the center of family gatherings. Hence, I have a kitchen the size of an aircraft carrier because it is where all our silly stories are shared, our drama, dreams, joy, politics, and sorrows.  It is where the grocery list resides, which is always a mile long because we never know who is staying for dinner. Proctor Family Translation: Cook like you mean it and think big, which is one of our family’s practical philosophies that applies to all areas of our lives, including ballroom dancing.

Entering the World of Ballroom Dance

charlene proctorMy mother, Veronica Margaret Victoria Czerná, encouraged my brother and I to be musicians, and explore the arts.  We were raised on a heavy dose of musical theatre, ballet, acting classes, and we traveled to many competitions with our jazz band and orchestra when we were young. We were taught to have an incredible work ethic, strive to be educated, provide exceptional hospitality at home, and appreciate our good fortune to be in America. As an adult, I was an athlete in a number of sports, and raising two boys seemed to put me on the football or soccer field.  As they matured, I went back to dancing.  I took lessons with Tom and then all of us at Fred Astaire Bloomfield Hills attended the Holiday Dance Classic nearly seven years ago. I was mesmerized by competitive dancing and that was it.

Getting Through Difficulties and Struggles

charlene proctorFrom the beginning, I thought it would be interesting to keep track of the amount of times (heats) I danced on the floor.  It became a habit after I was asked to calculate this for an article long ago. So, I kept track after each of the 103 competitions I have attended.  I have danced with seven different pro instructors, exactly 23,850 times.  When I walk on the floor, and question my abilities or feel my courage waning, it reminds me I have been there before, and most likely, will be there again, and all is well.

I’ve seen the inside of more hotels in the U.S. than I can remember, and I have been in airports for Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Easter, birthdays, family get-togethers, and anniversaries. There is personal sacrifice from being on the competition circuit all year, but it is the people and what you learn in relationships in the ballroom world that make the experience special.  When I’m 90 years old, enjoying nature and perhaps playing Mahjong and reminiscing about life, I will say it was worthwhile because of what I have learned. I’ve watched my colleagues and the professionals dance thousands of times, and still love the skill and art of ballroom dancing. When I go to a competition and walk into the vendor area, I’m excited to see the ballroom.  The sparkle is still there!

Preparing for a Day on the Floor

charlene proctorI always pray before I go on the dance floor, and I’m sure many people have seen me pray.  I’m always in the on-deck area when I do. I call forth the essence of Spirit and thank God for the love, light, and protection I am about to receive. I harmonize with Source, knowing I am protected and guided. I ask to be a vision and expression of grace on the floor. And I ask the same for others.

Empowering Moments

charlene proctorI remember dancing in San Diego when I was in bronze, and smooth was a relatively new style for me. I was leaning against the wall in the ballroom with five ladies: Two of them were top pros, a prominent smooth coach in the industry, and another competitor.  All of us were at least six feet tall, dressed in gowns, and we stood within inches of each other. Wendy Johnson walked by, looked at our line-up, grinned, and gave a nod of approval.  “Ah,” she said, “There are my American Smooth girls!”  It was a simple and empowering moment to be in such classy company. It felt great. One of the most endearing parts of our industry is the support of many coaches, who constantly encourage us to expand our dance vision. From their teachings, we strive to think like champions, and be that, no matter our level.  When they say “Job well-done!” after the competition, it feels magical.


Dance Challenges

I have danced with many different pro instructors over the years, and commuted thousands of miles for practice. Long distance arrangements are very challenging, and everything in our household revolves around The Dance Schedule.  I could not do this without the geniune support of my family.  Currently, I am dancing three styles with three different pros, in three cities: Viktor Tkachenko, Smooth (Fred Astaire Bloomfield Hills Michigan), Hayk Arshakian, Latin (Fred Astaire Wisconsin), and Igor Kiselev, Standard (Atlantic Ballroom, Baltimore). Each of these men bring a unique teaching and perspective to my life, and our team is very positive. Hammer Nutrition is our sponsor, and all of us are working to maximize our physical bodies in order to bring our best to the floor.

Inspiration to Keep Dancing

charlene proctorI enjoy the relationships, of course, and the hugs and humor when dance seems overwhelming.  Ray Rivers always says, “Everything is simple. Nothing is easy” and I am still learning to apply this philosophy after many years of practice and competing.  Patience is not my strong suit, and it has been difficult to switch pros so often, but lives and people change and I just have to accept that is another part of the experience. Over the years, working with my coaches has been one of the most consistent and enriching aspects of my dancing. Also, the welcoming vibe of the Fred Astaire family has been wonderful.

Last year I was invited to dance in the team match at Millennium, and by the end of the evening, those on the team who had been on the floor all day were dazed. Janice Gonzalez, who is one of the funniest people I know, kept me in stitches goofing around in the on-deck area that night. I laughed so hard at absolutely nothing, I think my dress split open at the sides. We were like silly children. Those moments in the ballroom, when we remember to play and be in the moment for the joy of it, are always among my favorite experiences at competitions. They remind us to be part of a greater community, no matter the score.  We can still have a good time when we don’t take ourselves too seriously.  Those occasions are good food for the soul.

Life Challenges

charlene proctorBecause of the amount of travel on the circuit and the numerous training hours, it can be difficult to keep my nutrition in check (yes, we all fall off the wagon at times). Sometimes I overdo it in all areas, resulting in injury or sheer exhaustion. Balance is a constant challenge. Moving up to the higher levels invites stress because it is yet another goal or milestone. The bar is raised to win, and it becomes more difficult.  All athletes go through periods of questioning their potential.  Like others, I wonder, “Have I reached my potential already? Is this as good as I’m going to get? Is it time to re-adjust my objectives and goals?” And so forth.

In our private lives, those who are outside of the ballroom dance world see what we do as a glamourous mystery, and often remind us to dance with joy. To ENJOY and take it all in at its fullest moments and be proud to be there.  To be FULLY PRESENT.  It is challenging when we establish a goal of being a U.S. Champion or winning a scholarship at a major event, and when it doesn’t happen, we must return home and get it in perspective. My mother is 92 years young now and in a wheelchair, and can’t attend any more competitions to watch me, but all the times she did, she said it was a privilege to dance. It’s truly special. That’s why it is important to get grounded after an event.  When I walk into the kitchen after being on the road for days and things didn’t go very well, words of encouragement from my family to keep striving toward my potential are what gets me back on the practice floor on Monday mornings.

Being an Ambassador

I am a Ph.D., an interfaith minister, and have five degrees.  I have studied in India, Fiji, written several self-help books and articles, and have done numerous programs to help empower women from all economic levels of life. I have done TV and radio shows on joy, positivity, manifesting abundance and prosperity, and I seek to teach others the importance of a positive outlook.  The challenge with ballroom dancing is that it comes from such a deep place inside of us.  It LIVES inside of us. Dance is emotional and heartfelt; it is a private place.  Thus, we tend to question our abilities, and we forget who we really are: we are spiritual beings here to learn and help each other evolve.

My greatest challenge in my ballroom career is to follow my own advice. To balance the joy of dancing with my athletic, competitive nature. I strive to be positive and affirm the best in myself even when the chips are down. Dance is not a quest for perfection, nor is a score a reflection of who you are as an individual. We can never dance perfect, there will never be a perfect round, or a perfect day on the dance floor. Adopting a champion state of mind, as Stephen Knight says, is projecting your inner soul outward and fusing the totality of everything you are at the moment and surrender to being present. That alone takes a whole lot of practice, both on and off the floor.

I choose to be an inspiration to people who are beginning their dance journey.  And I want to say to them that when we fall short of our own expectations, we cannot let it assault our positive self-image.  Dance is an experience that contributes to our own self-development as human beings because we are learning many lessons that have nothing to do with dance.  We are learning to express grace, pray for other’s success as much as our own, and be more loveable people.  We think we are learning the Jive but we may be learning discipline, or how to relate better to our pro, or patience, or math, or any number of other things. It is an interesting environment.  Overall, we must learn to be magnanimous and learn to manifest a positive vision of our own success, and help others do the same.

Dance Philosophy

charlene proctorTo be generous toward others is important.  It expands us. It makes us exceptional. It allows us to cherish one another and sets the tone for individual and spiritual growth. In such turbulent times where much of the world lacks peace and prosperity, we, in the ballroom world, can nurture our basic human desire to be loved and appreciated by bringing our own unique rendition of dance to the floor.  We truly are one musical body of light when we all get it right.

I do not ever forget to thank God for my ability to participate in the world of dancing.  Gratitude for everything I have in my life is ever present even after a hard day on the floor.char16  We must remember to dance with bliss, excitement, and celebration and fill ourselves with courage and joy. We must believe we have abundant talent and are fearless, powerful, confident, and strong. These are the empowering thoughts that make a champion and drive us collectively to success.

Many Blessings,

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
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Protect Yourself from Negativity

full moonTonight will be a rare blue moon. It occurs only once every 2 ½ years. Whenever there are two full moons in a calendar month, the second one is called a “blue moon.” Even though many would argue there is no correlation between a full moon’s impact on our behavior and circumstances such as car accidents or filled hospital emergency rooms, I believe there is some impact on humanity. I never sleep well during a full moon, and people seem to come to me with more problems during those times.

The last full moon, Kelly, our financial controller at our office, said she was bombarded with negativity from her son’s best friend’s mother who had come over for a visit. She said this woman was seriously complaining about everything, gossiping, and overly negative for over an hour. Kelly was exhausted, after listening to this drama and truly drained.

There is energy in every thought and in solid matter. Energy is held in all things. It permeates the Universe and similar vibrations attract each other. Moon or not, Kelly’s sensitivity and compassion made her open the door to energetically receive. When people stir us at an emotional level, and we are caught off-guard, we take it all in. We need to protect ourselves from lower vibrations, which is the dense, sticky, negative energy that is attached to a sour outlook on life, negative commentary, gossip, manipulative conversation, and rudeness. People who are immersed in this type of energy are often energy vampires. They feed off of our positive energy and walk away feeling uplifted while we feel discouraged.

Be Aware

We cannot allow others to bring our energetic fields down, so we must protect ourselves. It is impossible to accomplish greatness in our lives, and live fully and productively, if our vibration is low. We must be disciplined to recognize when we are exposed to these feelings, and do our best to mentally and emotionally rise above people and situations.
To increase a positive output, and be unaffected by moons, negative energies, and lower vibrations, I recommend the following:

  1. Every day, ask the God of your own choosing, the Arch Angels, or The Universe to protect you and your family. Ask that negativity, fear, worry, and self-doubt be removed from your experience. Surround yourself with light and ask for all negativity to be repelled. Emit a vibration of trust that you are protected.
  2. If you are in a transition period (looking to change jobs, partners, or need an improved situation in your life), visualize that you are attracting the best and most abundant scenario. Then, be in a state of gratitude for what you see yourself having. By emitting the vibration of gratitude, you are already acknowledging that you are in receipt of what you have asked for, so accept it with thanks, and act “as if” it has already appeared. Strong, positive beliefs attract success.

To top it off, I find that saying “anything I send out comes back to me ten-fold and whatever someone sends to me, goes back to them ten-fold” works very well. In extreme situations, it takes care of anyone who wishes you harm (because it will come back to them) and it insures that what you put out toward others (peace, love, generosity, kindness) will return to you in leaps and bounds.
Belief systems, and our energetic fields, are extremely powerful. So, be aware and be positive. Maybe only “once in a blue moon” will you be affected!

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.





What can you learn from your spiritual journey?

JourneyThis morning, I scrolled through old messages on my cell phone and discovered a long text from a friend I met at a dance competition. Three years ago, I struggled with changing partners and wondered how I would successfully make a transition. It seemed overwhelming and I was paralyzed with such a big decision. I perceived schedule changes and the uprooting of old relationships as a setback and not an opportunity for growth.

Often, when we are faced with decisions that impact our daily lives, we allow fear of the unknown to dictate our future. We spend too much time analyzing variables we have no control over and try to predict outcomes. The day I received Nikki’s text, I couldn’t see the big picture.

Nikki’s wisdom was profound. She watched me dance for years, and reminded me that long ago, dancing became more than showing up for practice and competing. It became a spiritual journey of the heart. She reminded me that the activities we are deeply enthusiastic about are always a vehicle for personal growth and positive change.

A Spiritual Journey is About Self Growth

A spiritual journey is about your personal development. It usually happens in a meaningful environment, such as your career, within your family relationships, in a sport or hobby, or any activity that carries most of your invested energy. The Universe wants you to carefully look at your emotional reactions and choices, and make sure you pay attention to the best and worst parts of yourself. Having angst over what to eat for dinner or when to walk the dog, doesn’t have the same impact on our personal growth as decisions surrounding what we are passionate about.

Situations we are fully invested in emotionally, financially, or physically offer the biggest opportunities for self-reflection. God wants to make sure we SEE WHAT IS and examine what positive improvements could benefit us. These circumstances are presented to us for our emotional and spiritual evolution. Unfortunately, the hardest lessons are attached.

Making Difficult Choices

Nikki’s text was also about parting ways with people. She encouraged me to be confident in the unknown future, and just surrender to it. She saw it as a blessing. Ending relationships is usually the last thing we want because it is our least comfortable zone. She said that it is always obvious when the time comes to part ways with another person. Meanwhile, we should trust God and just simply continue to do what we love. Our ‘love of doing’ is the constant undercurrent that flows underneath chaos and uncertainty. She said to be at peace, we must have a vision of surrounding ourselves with positive people who have no hidden agenda, are honest, and have our best interest at heart. If people don’t make you laugh or smile, she said, then run the other way. It is our responsibility to behave the same for others. This is when goodness happens for everyone.

The greatest spiritual teachers on the planet who have served humanity said that life is about relationships. If we are faced with deep pain within the context of a relationship, then we must carefully look at it. Just see clearly, without judgement. We must pay attention, and allow intuition to guide us. It we don’t, we are stunting our spiritual growth and negating whatever lesson is front of us. And when we gather the courage to make positive change, we uplift humanity and inspire others to make choices for their own personal growth. That is when the individual and collective spiritual journey matters and everyone wins.

Nikki reminded me that change is never easy, but inevitable, in all corners of our lives. When we choose to make change from an empowered and loving place, and do so with grace, style, and a big smile, we respect our spiritual journey. Without growing pains, she said, your vision of who you can be will never get any more fulfilling, and you will never expand the limits of what you can do.

This is the natural process our own self evolution.

Thanks Nikki, for this advice. Some texts you just don’t delete.

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.


Are You Mentally Strong?

ballroomWhether you are an athlete, in the middle of a health crisis, or just having a bad day at work, there are times you’ll need to pull strength from your inner core. Finding that extra energy that gets you where you need to go is a skill you can develop through awareness.

Everyone needs plenty of fortitude to survive and thrive in today’s world. Although we constantly receive spiritual assistance, sometimes our rational mind blocks the belief that our needs will always be met by The Universe when going through difficult times. Prickly relationships or a lack of abundance are common situations that always help us develop determination and courage which is the foundation of mental strength.

People who are mentally strong share similar qualities. If you recognize these ideas, and give them bigger space to grow in your life, you will feel empowered and be able to celebrate almost any experience when the going gets tough.

Mentally strong people:

  1. Move forward and don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. When they hit a bump in the road, they acknowledge it, and chalk it up to receiving a life lesson. They look beyond the circumstance and don’t get stuck in unforgiveness or failure because they realize there is absolutely nothing that can be done to change the past. It’s over and any energy spent dwelling on it or in it is a wasted resource that can be put toward making positive change.
  1. Embrace challenges and focus on the process. Anything worth having usually requires tremendous effort. They understand that success in any corner of life requires a strong and consistent work ethic that adapts to shifting conditions.
  1. Stay happy because they don’t waste time and energy on controlling people. They see life filled with wonder and joy but also respect the interesting matrix of uncertainties. They understand relationships are complex and people cannot be controlled. Mentally strong people know they can never change another person, only experience them, because a person must desire to improve themselves.
  1. Do their best to project kindness, practice fairness, and are unafraid to speak up. A mentally strong person sees the big picture and rises above petty situations. When they see injustice, they speak to their truth, and have the character and integrity to support their opinion. Generosity is their strong suit.
  1. Are willing to take calculated risks. They believe achievement does not happen by accident and do their best to analyze the best course of action to get there. They have an intention to succeed and are willing to make the best and most informed choice possible in every situation, knowing that sometimes they may not win the day.
  1. Celebrate their own success with an attitude of gratitude and humility. They are worldly enough to see the benefit in other people’s success and don’t resent it, but use it as a means to motivate and elevate themselves to the next level, wherever that may be.
  1. Make being their own personal or organizational “best” the goal, not just being better than others. They create value by looking within and focusing on what they do well and develop those ideas and skills accordingly. Trying to be better than someone without any understanding of what they do well, does not allow for exceptional growth. Success is always a consequence of personal and spiritual growth, as well as timing and outside influences beyond their control. Mentally strong people focus on their talents and put the time in to just get better.

Create a Winning Mentality

Not long ago, before a very large competition, I was feeling very unempowered and using the wrong imagery to motivate myself. My dear friend, Dawn told me that we should never set our sights on being better than a specific person. We need to focus on a goal, harness the power of our desire, and use it to overcome our fears of failure. More importantly, she said, making yourself the best should be your goal, not comparing yourself to a specific individual. Be mentally strong first, and get your head in order.

After offering me this wisdom, she said learning or achieving goes in stages. That you can work on one tiny thing for months and months with no result, and then one day, you wake up and you can do it because it has become part of you. Often, you can’t force the rate of how much you can take in to better yourself in any field of expertise. What pushes you over the high jump bar is a consistent attitude, and the belief that information turns into knowledge which turns into skill by practicing mental strength. All that you are attempting to be is there inside you, just waiting to be born. Have confidence, she said, that it’s going to happen. I applied this advice in the next competition, and felt stronger, more peaceful, and was able to produce results.

Mental strong people love to win, and usually do, but they know that life is not about winning. It is not about squashing the competition or making more money than anyone else or feeling superior. It is about learning and doing more and achieving more, while knowing who you are. It is about enjoying what you do and inspiring others to pursue their dreams. Winning, or any form of success, is the blessing that happens when the stars and moons are properly aligned and when your heart is fully committed to a goal. Develop the qualities of mental strength and apply them to every corner of your life. I believe you will feel more joyful and be able to attract success!

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential.



Angels Help Us Experience Positive Change

angelA few months ago, I visited the Notre-Dame Basilica, whose stone foundation was built between 1672 and 1683. Located in the heart of Montreal, its towers, sanctuary, and chapel are a breathtaking and spectacular piece of architecture that is rich in history.

Often when we feel troubled, solitude quiets our mind, so the heart can listen. Usually, in the peace and quiet of churches or gardens, it is easier to receive answers. We can set an intention or just pray for the health and well-being for those we love. I needed clarity about my dancing, so I went to Notre-Dame to meditate and reach out to The Universe, thinking it was a good time to reflect.

Dance is a testing ground to resolve cultural differences. It allows us to channel our competitive instincts. We get a taste of success then question if we have reached our potential. We learn forgiveness in broken partnerships or earn trust through longevity. And then, if we dearly love our dancing, most of us see it as a means to emanate joy and change the world. I always said you can change the world with one good dance. You never know how much it can affect a person. That’s pretty powerful.

As I lit candles for my family’s health and well-being, I asked for help in the biggest sectors of my life. Relationships were always on the list because they were the most challenging. Work. The health and well-being of my mother. My children’s futures. And, of course, dance. You wouldn’t think that dancing was an arena for spiritual growth, but it’s huge. In the last six years, it challenged my self-worth and how I made peace with my aging body.

Broken Partnerships

Dancing, or anything you love to do that brings you joy, should be generous and true. In a partnership sport, like competitive dancing, when the relationship lacks a feeling of free emotional movement, it won’t last. You need two, congruent minds who believe that it is possible to train and win. The creative process needs to be shared.

Even with my good intentions, and focus on success, I had three broken relationships in one year. What happened? I asked. I showed commitment. Did my job. Lived my truth. Was patient and honest. Practiced positivity. In the Basilica, I approached my situation with an open heart, and humbly took inventory of all the things I didn’t do so well. I embraced my errors in thinking and mistakes which are never easy to admit but nobody’s perfect. I sat in the pew and prayed for assistance. It’s a good thing, I thought, that nobody has to listen to all this drama except God.

Praying for Change

True prayer initiates a change in consciousness. In prayer, instead of lamenting over our numerous errors, we must shift our thinking and see every experience as an opportunity to recognizeBasilica wisdom in its many shapes and forms. We must see ourselves as successful and uniquely talented human beings, and invite God to express through us. And occasionally ask ourselves, “What is God’s idea of Itself as my life? If I were a channel for The Divine to express, what would I bring to others?” Unity Minister Reverend Michael Beckwith says opening a bigger picture on what we naturally and joyfully could be expressing in our lives really expands our thought process and makes us more available to wisdom, and to the signs that are a response to our prayers. We need to be good listeners. Paying attention to what we ask for and how Spirit communicates with us is so vital to our spiritual journey.

Having great faith in the asking part of the process, I mentally shifted to seeking and knocking at God’s door. My intention was to find a sensible situation, and be surrounded by positivity. I left the door open on how that was to happen, as I believe in giving The Universe an open invitation to create circumstances that are right for me. So, after raising my vibration, and attuning to an elevated consciousness, I asked, sought, and knocked. Jesus assured us these things are the predecessors to fulfillment of our desires. I figured I was in good hands.

Angelic Signs

Spiritual requests for help are always met when powered by a strong desire. Our life events are immediately realigned in order to receive what we want, as long as there is consistency and clarity in the request. Years ago, when I studied in Fiji with the monks of the Oneness University, I actually saw this process of prayer fulfillment. In a deep meditation, I connected to Spirit and I asked for some new conditions in my life. I saw the Divine Mind realigning the energies and pathways for changes to occur. It was an incredible experience to actually see it. I know that once a consistent broadcast goes out, in the form of prayer or intention, it is met with a realignment of conditions that provides an opportunity to grow.

Because we are often surprised about how new experiences are attracted to us after prayer, we don’t notice that conditions realign for our benefit. Often, it feels, or looks like, an upheaval, but I believe that once we ask and release our attachment to the outcome, whatever comes our way is meant to help us become more, never less, that our authentic self. We are more open to experience positive change.

Signs also come to us after we choose bigger picture thinking. They are usually subtle and arrive in the form of colors, phone calls, music, or feelings. These are the comforting little things that let us know we are cared for. Watched over. Validated. Loved. At the Basilica that day, I realized I had been so focused on finding a new partner and overcoming past hurts, and fixing it all myself through analysis of what a great dance partnership would be, I didn’t expand to include a greater vision of myself and capabilities. So I could not attract the best situation. I forgot to let go, and trust that big decisions in life are not made entirely on my own or by taking advice from friends.

AngelI knew that to initiate change in my conditions, I had to stay on the highest possible course, keeping my thoughts positive, and stay centered in affirmations. As I left the pew, and walked out of the church, I saw a stained glass depiction of angels. I remembered that Archangel Michael works for the higher power. The Archangels are always available to help improve our lives. Surrounded by peace, I felt his presence. A peaceful energy came into me. What took you so long? You know I am here, I heard.  Just ask. My purpose is to help you live a life of peace. I realized no job was too big or too insignificant to turn over to an angel.

Archangel Michael gives encouragement and comfort to make decisions and is concerned with physical and spiritual protection. His signs are designed to reassure, and to help empower us and have courage, faith, and release fear and anxiety. I should know this already, I thought, as I have a painting of him in my home. He is often depicted with sword, a spiritual warrior who slices through heavy circumstances. When called upon, he is a spiritual force that helps create good foundations for stability. I asked him to become my guide on relationships and be a permanent fixture in my life.

Reordered Conditions

Earlier that summer, a man named Michael (go figure) from New York was recommended to me by a prominent coach and a friend. He flew into town to dance with me for two days under the watchful eye of my coach. I thought the distance between Detroit to New York City was too far to practice. At first, he didn’t strike me as having much of a sense of humor. He was poised, quiet, and conducted himself like Fitzwilliam Darcy, an 18th century gentleman from the Jane Austen novel Pride and Prejudice. Against the advice of my coach, I passed him over and chose Guy #3, a funny, energetic, extroverted, superb salesman, who painted a glorious picture of what our dance future would be together. After the last partnership was dissolved, I thought it would be great to let my hair down with somebody who had a sense of humor.

Over the next 2 months, I learned that his intention was not in alignment with mine, a painful realization. After I left the church that afternoon, the relationship with Guy #3 ended with a debilitating conversation, and we called it quits over lunch. It was one of the most unempowering conversations of my life, and during the cab ride back to the hotel, I wondered, Angels, you were supposed to fix this, not make it worse! It was the third set of material I had in just over a year, and nearly 100 different patterns and routines. I was discouraged with constantly starting over, and weary of spending more time and money to dance and compete. There would be no United States Dance Championships or Ohio Star Ball for me, and at this rate, maybe never. I was embarrassed that I couldn’t make any arrangement work, but another coach made me see it very clearly. “It’s just an experience,” he reminded me over and over. “It’s not good or bad. It’s just an experience. Your vibrations didn’t match. That is all, nothing more.” Certainly, failure in a relationship is not something I should choose to wear on my sleeve the rest of my life. Asking for help in the Basilica that day meant circumstances had to break down, before there could be any rebuilding on a solid foundation.

Sri Amma Bhagavan always said that to find peace, we must consider life as is, and see reality clearly. And to find our personal truth, we must seek truth everywhere, from many different sources. We must keep learning. Question everything. And come up with a version that is right for us. I put my energies into being humble when I returned home, and called New York Michael, and told him I was eating plenty of humble pie. I said I made a mistake and chose the wrong person, and if he would still have time and the desire, would he mind dancing with me? I knew it was a long shot. He calmly said, “I liked dancing with you the first time, so I don’t think that will change.” Sometimes, we don’t get it right the first time. If we ask the Angels for assistance, who desire so much to bring us peace in our lives, we will get there because it is never too late for anything we want in our lives. If we give the Angels a chance to work with us when our human efforts fail, all will be well.

Moving Forward with Grace

When we sense imperfection, incompleteness, loneliness, despair, or when we feel unappreciated, stranded or discouraged, it’s because we’ve failed to acknowledge the assistance coming to us at all times. This is the energetic connection with the Presence called “grace.” Receiving grace is natural, and it takes no effort on our behalf to do anything. All we have to do is be open to God’s dancingunlimited concern and care. The Angels are great at opening our channels so that we are receptive to receiving our download of grace. They help facilitate putting the Divine’s hand in ours. Suddenly, serendipitous or lucky events seem to multiply when we recognize them as God’s grace in action, because when we become aware of God’s intelligence and consciously align with it, we attract better situations.

After prayer, and if we are truly open to improving our situations, coincidences seem to connect us with people who are the resources we need to solve a problem. This is part of the realignment with grace, which often, in the beginning, might look or feel like an upheaval. Recently, New York Michael’s wife told me that earlier last year, she had prayed for good people to come into his life. She said she had wished for it so deeply that when I came along, she knew that her prayer had been answered. Our dancing, which has now reached the six month mark, is filled with warmth and appreciation, and has a very upbeat bond. There is a deep sense of appreciation, and even though we’ve hit a few speed bumps along the way, the dancing is getting technically sound and looks joyful on the floor. When we occasionally disagree on an issue, I ask the Angels for information, and thus far, they indicate I am still on a positive path. They will leave me little signs in the form of white feathers or a friend will suddenly call and say something to me that seems to be just what I hear at that moment.

Because the natural state of the Universe is ceaseless change, we must remember that help is available to make better choices. Relationships are our biggest teacher, and we can depend upon the higher power for input. This year, wings became a symbol of freedom for me and a reminder that the Angels are there to steer us in the best direction. Obstacles are only learning experiences that challenge us to find more strength which will always inspire other person. We may not always predict a problem (and often they come in the form of dance pros), but it’s good to know that Divine intelligence always sees farther than we do. Sometimes, we just need to pay attention to the right signs. And have faith in the outcome.

Next article in the Angelic Series: Feathered Friends and Finding Five’s.

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