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How to accept life’s challenges

Everyone experiences challenges, pain, loss, and setbacks. How can we look at our disappointments and hurts and still maintain a positive perspective on life? How do we increase our resiliency when we’re going through turbulent changes?

The story of Kisa Gotami

A Buddhist story, “The Mustard Seed,” shows that we don’t suffer independently or differently from others. This story is a favorite of the Oneness guides of India. As the story goes, Kisa Gotami, a woman whose son has died, is in deep suffering. In her grief, she carries her son’s body to all the people in her village and asks everyone for help. Finally a villager sends her to see the Buddha, to whom she cries out, “Master, please help me! Give me medicine to cure my child and bring him back to life!”

“Bring me a handful of mustard seeds that were taken from a house where no death has occurred and no grief experienced,” the Buddha replies. “It must be a home where no one has lost a parent, friend, spouse, or child. Then you will be free from suffering.”

So Kisa Gotami searches for a family that has not experienced death. She cannot find such a family, of course. At each home in her village, she is reminded that everyone has gone through the same grief she is experiencing. There is no house where a beloved person has not died. Everyone has suffered as she is suffering. Finally, she realizes that her suffering is not unique. Now she knows that her situation cannot be changed. Since death happens in all families, she can no longer remain selfish in her grief. At last, because she sees that she is not alone, Kisa Gotami releases her suffering. She buries her child in the forest and returns to the Buddha to take comfort.

This story is a lesson about shared suffering. It’s about understanding that we don’t suffer differently from other people. Like Kisa Gotami, we have experienced joy, happiness, pain, and fear. None of these are new, and our suffering is not special. Suffering is common to humanity because no one leads an independent existence. In the New Testament writings, the mustard seed represents faith. Everyone has the same emotions, even the same habits that we use to avoid suffering. We are intimately related and connected through suffering, and we share it collectively. We can no more own suffering than we can own the stars.

Your suffering is not unique

Your suffering is not unique, nor are you alone in your suffering. Suffering is shared, nobody owns it, and we even suffer the same way. Suffering is the same for everybody, because it is always the same mechanism at work. Since we share the same mind and consciousness, why would our suffering be different?

There is no one on this planet that will escape suffering. When we resist suffering, we dissociate from the experience, we blame others, or we set up escape routes in our mind to distract us. We’re afraid to experience suffering, but if you want to be finished with it, then you’ll have to allow those feelings to come. Resistance can be its own brand of suffering. This is because your resistance will keep the experience coming back again and again.

If hurt is present, don’t create some explanation for it. Experience the hurt completely and let yourself go straight through the experience. Give yourself permission to feel these things just as if you would if joy were in front of you. Don’t be afraid. Suffering is just another experience. It comes to an end. When you embrace it and move though it, you won’t get stuck in it.

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How can we Embrace the Positive and Negative Sides of Life

  1. Change your outlook on change. This is ‘big picture’ thinking. While major upheavals in life can be challenging, you still need to view adversity as change, not as loss and failure. Humans develop resiliency through change, both physiologically and emotionally. It is necessary for all life forms to evolve. You have to give up ‘certainty’ and trust the process of life more often. Know that Spirit supports you no matter what. Adversity is a deeply spiritual lesson because God is attempting to show you a piece of life you need to view for your own evolution and transformation.
  2. Remain fully present to your suffering. Being fully present during loss, grief, and all forms of adversity is important. Until you process your pain, you cannot move through it. People often stuff or manage their emotional pain which then translates into poor health, overeating, and more psychological suffering.  Feel your suffering, and experience it in order to move past it.
  3. Affirm your positive, present moment benefits no matter what. Accepting life’s contrasts, whether from financial loss, divorce, illness, or grief, means you accept life wholeheartedly. You must accept the bad as well as the good. As adults we tend to resent life. Keep moving forward, and ask for Divine assistance. You will be amazed at how help arrives so be open to receiving your good.  The universe is infinitely creative and will send help in ways you could not imagine.

Let’s draw strength together and remember each day is a new opportunity to make positive change in your world, no matter what.  Affirm:

“Change is good. I am comforted knowing starting over is an ongoing job. I am becoming more resilient with every circumstance. I never give up. Life is a cycle and there’s always more room for love.  I believe I am evolving every day.”

Suffering is a condition we can move through. Humans are designed to experience grief but not be permanently stuck in grief. Remember, adverse changes in life permit personal growth and permit us a greater capacity to love.

I hope you enjoyed these tips on embrace the light and dark sides of life. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

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 Every Blessing,

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Change our Suffering to Joy

We manage our suffering rather than coming to terms with it and moving through it.  Instead we manage our suffering.

There will always be suffering. We suffer when we don’t fully live through the present moment, feel the pain of it (if there is pain) and embrace it.  The East is teaching us that we, in the West, are experts at suffering management.  We stuff our suffering, go to therapy, eat, drink, complain, get mad at our families, run away, watch TV, shop more, or look for love in the wrong places. We don’t face our suffering head on and allow it to fill us.  We don’t want to feel it and stay with that pain.  Even old emotional charges, which are the residue of old suffering, need to be faced head on until they pass.  Westerners think the way to deal with suffering is to contain it and manage it.  That is not the key to living in joy and the way to fully experiencing life.

In the West, our minds are running our lives. Rather than being a work-servant to our lives, our minds are obsessed with the past and the future. We chose to allow old conditioning, and ‘autopilot living’ dominate our experience, rather than fully immersing ourselves in the present.  Also, we carry too many emotional charges and traumas. These charges become stuck in our koshas, the energy layers which cause us physical distress. To fix all this, we identify with our old stories, as well as our physical bodies instead of our spiritual selves, and wind up as seekers seeking everything from happiness to more pleasure, instead of seeking ‘essence.’

Also, we don’t know our own divinity and don’t feel connected. All suffering originates in the belief in separation. Sin is our belief in separation from God, the Good, in consciousness. Our salvation is now—not something that occurs after death. It happens whenever we turn our thoughts from fear, anxiety, worry and doubt to thoughts of love, harmony, joy and peace. The ‘fall’ that religion has frightened us with simply takes place in consciousness whenever we fall into negative habits of thinking. Heaven and hell are states of consciousness, not geographical locations. We make our own heaven or hell here and now by our thoughts, words and deeds. It would be great if we could release all these fears.

I hope you enjoyed this short article on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

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Every Blessing,

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The process of becoming a “Divine Human” – How does an ordinary person become a “Divine Human?”

The Divine Human is one who knows their True Self. The Divine self, or the antaryamin (Divine Indweller) is the higher self, or the god or realized self. It is the knowledge that we are unlimited because we can never be outside of All That Is. When we open up to this, we expand our potential on many levels: in work, in our relationships, in our ability to love and be joyful.

We can never understand or experience God through someone else’s eyes, nor experience the same self-development path of another individual.  All humans will be on their own individual path to this knowledge, in this lifetime or in other lifetimes.  All truth is developed through individual insight. However, the following principles will help guide your path, and help you to be more authentic and at ease with life during your process. These principles speak to universal truth and the essence of what it means to lead a spiritual life:

  1. First understand yourself and your relationship to the Divine.
  2. Know that the journey begins where you are, not where you want to be. Consider life as it is and accept it. See reality clearly. Put your spiritual development at the top of your list.
  3. Revere the Divine. Live with awareness of your inner God. Place the creator where he belongs: in you.
  4. Love God with your heart and soul. Feel the freedom and joy of doing so.
  5. Seek truth everywhere, and don’t limit yourself to one faith or wisdom tradition. Read. Question everything. Come up with a version that works for you.
  6. Invite God’s love. Ask for grace and know you are never alone.
  7. Be authentic. Learn to be at ease with yourself. Authenticity lays the groundwork for self-love.
  8. Be a spiritual peacemaker. See yourself as the change you wish to see in the world. Be peaceful and open to forgiveness.
  9. Choose to live in the energy of unconditional love and abandon your judging mind. Learn to love the experience of life, free from conditioning and negativity.
  10. Adopt spiritual practices that make sense to you and understand their meaning. Pray with passion and clarity. Meditate often.
  11. Use auspicious language and don’t allow your thoughts and words to turn into negative stories and illusions.
  12. See God everywhere. Mention God often. Talk about God and say “God” with gusto.

© Charlene M. Proctor Ph.D.  The Oneness Gospel: Birthing the Christ Consciousness and Divine Human in You.  All Rights Reserved.

I hope you enjoyed this short article on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

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Every Blessing,

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
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A Spiritual Transformation Gives You Joy in Simple Things

Bhagavan makes spirituality easy, and says it is the amount of joy you have in your life. It is not measured by how many hours you meditate. Everyone, he says, will have a unique form of spirituality and awakening. If there are six billion people on the planet, then there will be six billion extraordinary experiences of awakening and of the Divine. That’s six billion special practices of spiritualities, six billion special experiences of spiritual transformation. One is not better than the other. Just be honest with yourself and know growth never really ends.

There’s an old story about a man seeking enlightenment. He finds an enlightened holy man who shares his before-and-after scenario with the spiritual seeker. “Before I was enlightened, I chopped wood and carried water,” says the holy man.

The seeker, expecting to hear about how amazing the holy man’s life became after his awakening, says, “Wow, what did you do afterward?”

“Chopped wood, carried water,” replies the holy man. “Only after I was enlightened, I really enjoyed it.” The spiritual seeker who looks to quiet the mind and pursues communion with God is growing his or her consciousness and doesn’t look for extraordinary experiences. When your consciousness grows, it means that you are developing the ability to experience the simplest things in life with joy.

You can have the same experiences repeatedly and feel a new, heightened sense of awareness each time. Eating a big slice of your birthday cake is always fun. So is seeing the same family members every year, riding the Tilt-A-Whirl, or catching the same bass in the lake behind your house. Unawareness is feeling disconnected or let down by life, feeling depressed, like a robot living on emotional reactions. You sense lack everywhere, in everything. If you think you’re leading a spiritual life, ask yourself, “How well am I experiencing my reality? Is there joy in nearly everything?” If you’re awakened, you see life for what it is rather than what you think it should be. Living a spiritual life is feeling at ease with yourself, your feelings, and your relationships. It’s accepting people exactly as they are and being grateful for them. You’re able to face other people without fear, guilt, or defense mechanisms because you’re not on guard, not afraid of making mistakes or losing something.

A person who is truly spiritual can live alongside of others and never forget God, even for a moment. The Sufi sage Abu Sa’id ibn Abi-al-Khayr once said that the true mystic can come and go, eat and sleep, buy and sell, marry, chat, and be with others in the mainstream of life but never be out of touch with his or her own divinity. No matter what your life experiences are, there is no reason ever to be separated from who you really are.

I hope you enjoyed this short article on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

And, please stay in touch with me by subscribing to this blog using the form on the right-hand side of your screen. That way, I can send you more stories and insight from The Oneness Gospel.

Every Blessing,

© Charlene M Proctor and The Goddess Network, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
For more affirmations, read The Women’s Book of Empowerment: 323 Affirmations that Change Everyday Problems into Moments of Potential. Click Here to buy.

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Belief in separation obstructs our perception of unity

To claim the birthright of our own divinity, we must care of our personal business first. When we develop self-awareness, we make room for the Presence to work through us. To prepare for the New Age (and blast off into a new vibratory realm to change the world), therefore, we have to start from the beginning and reflect on our past suffering and family problems. I know it’s no fun to take responsibility for our own joy; it’s much easier to place the blame for our perceived challenges elsewhere. But self-reflection and self-responsibility are the only ways to clear the pathway to truth if we don’t want to enter a religious order, which doesn’t work for most of us living in modern-day suburbia. With some prayer and application, we can learn to recognize the Presence in us so fully that there can be no differentiation in our existence and God’s. We already have at our disposal the most beautiful and enriching written wisdom, owned by all of humankind, so let’s embody the light. Everyday life can become the cocreative experience it was originally meant to be.

To work in conjunction with the Divine Presence, we need to be conscious that we exist as one. Cocreation is our natural state. The universe is one big, receptive, energy sphere. It reflects our intentions, thoughts, and actions, so we can learn to be conscious cocreators with the Divine Presence. For years, my spiritual work was simply getting people to think positively and affirm what was right and good in their lives. I taught people how to broadcast through their words and energies that they are whatever they think they are. When we invite success, prosperity, love, or any number of wonderful qualities into our experience, we are working with natural laws. We enjoy the results. It’s great practice.

But it’s not enough. Those of us who seek to be Christ lights and attune our consciousness with God (and as a result, create loving miracles of healing and abundance in our experience) must go beyond positive thinking and realize that we are one with the Father, no matter our perceived differences. That’s how to find the kingdom within. It’s also nice to have a mystical experience of a unified universe, a deeper connection, a sense of the eternal, that doesn’t discount our Christianity but rather refreshes it.

Oneness is our natural state. It is a complete harmonic convergence with the Divine, where we draw ourselves back to conscious oneness with all creation. It is our realization of God’s own reflection in the son of man, in all of humankind. In all of us. To have the Christ light within, or “have Christ in you,” is to obtain that level of consciousness. A Christed one is an enlightened person who has awakened to his or her own divinity and light, and who embodies the higher vibration and fully reflects God.

I hope you enjoyed this short article on being with ease with yourself. I’d love to hear from you, so please do share your comments and personal stories below.

Every Blessing,

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